The beauty of halal marriage is beyond wonderful, the effect it leaves on the readers is so poignant that one would motivate on finding such same way of getting into marriage- this is what the story of the wedding of ‘Ali Ibn Abi Talib Radiyallahu Anhu with Fatimah Bint Muhammad Radiyallahu Anha is all about.
My dear brothers and sisters in Islam, if any of you are seeking for a spouse or is on a verge on doing nikkah then this story is for you, and I pray that each one of us would learn from this beautiful story.
My dear brothers and sisters in Islam, if any of you are seeking for a spouse or is on a verge on doing nikkah then this story is for you, and I pray that each one of us would learn from this beautiful story.
(Tho for those who have gone through nikkah and are happily married now, then for sure the brothers would be able to narrate to the experiences of ‘Ali and the sisters on the experiences of Fatimah)
I will no longer go into full detail of who they are as we all have knowledge about them, what I am trying to focus on is the story of how they got into nikkah.
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On the day that a marriage proposal was sent to the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wassalaam for the hand of Fatimah Radiyallahu Anha, a female mawla (freed slave) of ‘Ali came to him and persistently encourage him to go and seek for the hand of Fatimah.
The mawla said: "Do you know that Fatimah’s hand has been sought from the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wassalaam?"
'Ali said: "No."
The mawla said: "Her hand has been sought (in marriage). What prevents you from approaching the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wassalaam so that he may marry her to you?"
'Ali answered: "Do I have anything with which to marry?"
The mawla said: "If you go to the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wassalaam he will marry her to you."
And the mawla kept urging ‘Ali and she succeeded and made ‘Ali go and see the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wassalaam.
When ‘Ali arrived and was sat infront of the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wassalaam, he was totally dumbfounded as ‘Ali said "By Allah I was unable to say anything due to awe and fright." (Ma sha Allah)
So the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wassalaam asked him: "What has brought you? Do you have any need?"
'Ali then kept quiet, not a single word and he was very nervous. (Ma sha Allah)
So the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wassalaam asked again: "Perhaps you have come to seek Fatimah’s hand in marriage?"
With this, ‘Ali answered so fast like without any doubt and said, "Yes."
"Do you have anything with which you will marry her?" asked the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wassalaam.
'Ali answered: "By Allah, no, O Messenger of Allah."
What about the shield I gave you?” ‘Ali said: "It is with me."
The Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wassalaam then said: "I have married her to you. Send it to her and I have made her permissible for you with it."
Thus, the shield of ‘Ali became the mahr of Fatimah.
The following morning, the wedding day commenced, Asma Bint Umays Radiyallahu Anha was there and narrated the following.
"The Prophet came to the door and said: "O Umm Ayman, invite my brother for me.”
She said:"He is your brother and you are marrying (your daughter) to him?"
The Prophet said: "Yes, Umm Ayman." So ‘Ali came and the Prophet sprinkled some water on him and prayed for him and then said: "Invite Fatimah for me."
Fatimah then came stumbling due to shyness, so the Prophet told her: "Be calm, I have married you to the most beloved of my household to me." The Prophet sprinkled water on her and supplicated for her as well.
As to the wedding feast, as narrated by Buraidah Radiyallahu Anhu ‘Ali and Fatimah had a sheep and a group of Ansar gathered for him some measures of sorghum (sweetener syrup).
On the night of consummation, the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wassalaam said: "O ‘Ali do not do anything till you meet me." Then He Sallallahu Alaihi Wassalaam requested for water performed ablution with it and then poured the remainder on ‘Ali and then supplicated: "O Allah, bless both of them, shower Your blessings on them and bless their children."
The marriage of Ali and Fatimah happened during the 2nd year of Hijrah after the Battle of Badr and she bore him Hassan, Hussain and Umm Khultum.
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Such a beautiful narration on the path to marriage, this is how our marriages should be, before asking about what did you finish, what is your work or so, it was the piety as the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wassalaam knew the piety that ‘Ali had.
There are few points in this story that we should all reflect upon:
1) My sisters, be inspired to the fact that the most beloved daughter of the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wassalaam had only the shield of ‘Ali as her mahr on her wedding.
It is not healthy for us to go and ask for such extravagant mahr, we know that most of the time it is the parents that ask for these things but what I am trying to point out is that we should be clean of that thought, know that the best nikkah is the one of less expense.
2) My brothers, if you are really attracted to this sister to whom you really think would be the person who would help you get closer to Allah Azza Wa Jall then have tawwakul and ask for her hand in the most halal way, not on text nor on facebook or twitter or tumblr, but go tell your parents and let the arrangements be done.
If right now all you need is a push, then AKHI I AM PUSHING YOU, I am being the mawla and will persistently urge you to go and marry the sister, make her your queen and I pray Allah Azza Wa Jall blesses you both with wonderful pious children and good life ahead!
3) The Hayaa should intensify than deteriorate, the gheera (protective jealousy) should be present.
Yes, not because you are already going into marriage or that nikkah has been done then you can go out to the world and post on facebook and every single social networking site that he gave your flowers, he bought you dress, and all that.
And I mean people who flaunt their spouses, like the ones that go viral with shirts "wallah he’s mine and wallah she’s mine." (no offense). Rather than flaunting your spouse, you should be more careful with him or her, do not talk to anyone about family matters or things between the two of you too.
Also most of all, the hayaa and the gheera will help you become more sensitive to others, as hayaa would prevent you from asking about when will your friend get married or so and gheera would prevent you from talking about your spouse to a friend.
I have pointed this out as these days nikkah is prolonged until the walimah unlike with the Sahabah Radiyallahu Anhum, walimah or the wedding feast follows the next day.
4) This story is a reminder and a message to the parents who look for status in life rather than status in deen.
Beloved parents if you really want to see your offsprings settled down in good hands then choose the one who fears Allah the most.
By Allah, we do understand the need for assurance for good life for your children, but yes you will get to marry your daughter or son to a wealthy person yet do you think that good life is promised to them? Let me remind you that Allah Azza Wa Jall promised Hayaatan Thayibah (good life) to those who Fear Him, to the Believers.(See Qur’an 16:97)
I am not the one who promises you that if you give your son or daughter to a Believer of Allah then good life is given, I really do not, but Allah promises that, and we all know that the Promise of Allah is True.
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And we pray to Allah Azza Wa Jall that he makes the path to marriage easy for those who find it hard and that He bestows upon us guidance and wisdom on making decisions about nikkah. May Allah Azza Wa Jall shower you all with Hayaatan Thayibah.
Amin.
-Zohayma-
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Stories were taken from:
• At-Tabaqaat, Ibn Sa’ad
• Dalaa’il An-Nubuwah, Al Bayhaqi 3/160
• Bihaar Al-Anwaar, Al-Majlisee, p.39
• Fadaa’il As-Sahabah 2/955, no. 342 (Sahih) } 2/858 (Sahih)
• Al Mu’jam Al Kabir, At Tabari 1153
Note: Some were paraphrased as to what I have read, nevertheless all references are stated so for further details kindly direct yourselves to the dalil. Jazakallahu Khayran.
I will no longer go into full detail of who they are as we all have knowledge about them, what I am trying to focus on is the story of how they got into nikkah.
_____
On the day that a marriage proposal was sent to the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wassalaam for the hand of Fatimah Radiyallahu Anha, a female mawla (freed slave) of ‘Ali came to him and persistently encourage him to go and seek for the hand of Fatimah.
The mawla said: "Do you know that Fatimah’s hand has been sought from the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wassalaam?"
'Ali said: "No."
The mawla said: "Her hand has been sought (in marriage). What prevents you from approaching the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wassalaam so that he may marry her to you?"
'Ali answered: "Do I have anything with which to marry?"
The mawla said: "If you go to the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wassalaam he will marry her to you."
And the mawla kept urging ‘Ali and she succeeded and made ‘Ali go and see the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wassalaam.
When ‘Ali arrived and was sat infront of the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wassalaam, he was totally dumbfounded as ‘Ali said "By Allah I was unable to say anything due to awe and fright." (Ma sha Allah)
So the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wassalaam asked him: "What has brought you? Do you have any need?"
'Ali then kept quiet, not a single word and he was very nervous. (Ma sha Allah)
So the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wassalaam asked again: "Perhaps you have come to seek Fatimah’s hand in marriage?"
With this, ‘Ali answered so fast like without any doubt and said, "Yes."
"Do you have anything with which you will marry her?" asked the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wassalaam.
'Ali answered: "By Allah, no, O Messenger of Allah."
What about the shield I gave you?” ‘Ali said: "It is with me."
The Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wassalaam then said: "I have married her to you. Send it to her and I have made her permissible for you with it."
Thus, the shield of ‘Ali became the mahr of Fatimah.
The following morning, the wedding day commenced, Asma Bint Umays Radiyallahu Anha was there and narrated the following.
"The Prophet came to the door and said: "O Umm Ayman, invite my brother for me.”
She said:"He is your brother and you are marrying (your daughter) to him?"
The Prophet said: "Yes, Umm Ayman." So ‘Ali came and the Prophet sprinkled some water on him and prayed for him and then said: "Invite Fatimah for me."
Fatimah then came stumbling due to shyness, so the Prophet told her: "Be calm, I have married you to the most beloved of my household to me." The Prophet sprinkled water on her and supplicated for her as well.
As to the wedding feast, as narrated by Buraidah Radiyallahu Anhu ‘Ali and Fatimah had a sheep and a group of Ansar gathered for him some measures of sorghum (sweetener syrup).
On the night of consummation, the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wassalaam said: "O ‘Ali do not do anything till you meet me." Then He Sallallahu Alaihi Wassalaam requested for water performed ablution with it and then poured the remainder on ‘Ali and then supplicated: "O Allah, bless both of them, shower Your blessings on them and bless their children."
The marriage of Ali and Fatimah happened during the 2nd year of Hijrah after the Battle of Badr and she bore him Hassan, Hussain and Umm Khultum.
_____
Such a beautiful narration on the path to marriage, this is how our marriages should be, before asking about what did you finish, what is your work or so, it was the piety as the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wassalaam knew the piety that ‘Ali had.
There are few points in this story that we should all reflect upon:
1) My sisters, be inspired to the fact that the most beloved daughter of the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wassalaam had only the shield of ‘Ali as her mahr on her wedding.
It is not healthy for us to go and ask for such extravagant mahr, we know that most of the time it is the parents that ask for these things but what I am trying to point out is that we should be clean of that thought, know that the best nikkah is the one of less expense.
2) My brothers, if you are really attracted to this sister to whom you really think would be the person who would help you get closer to Allah Azza Wa Jall then have tawwakul and ask for her hand in the most halal way, not on text nor on facebook or twitter or tumblr, but go tell your parents and let the arrangements be done.
If right now all you need is a push, then AKHI I AM PUSHING YOU, I am being the mawla and will persistently urge you to go and marry the sister, make her your queen and I pray Allah Azza Wa Jall blesses you both with wonderful pious children and good life ahead!
3) The Hayaa should intensify than deteriorate, the gheera (protective jealousy) should be present.
Yes, not because you are already going into marriage or that nikkah has been done then you can go out to the world and post on facebook and every single social networking site that he gave your flowers, he bought you dress, and all that.
And I mean people who flaunt their spouses, like the ones that go viral with shirts "wallah he’s mine and wallah she’s mine." (no offense). Rather than flaunting your spouse, you should be more careful with him or her, do not talk to anyone about family matters or things between the two of you too.
Also most of all, the hayaa and the gheera will help you become more sensitive to others, as hayaa would prevent you from asking about when will your friend get married or so and gheera would prevent you from talking about your spouse to a friend.
I have pointed this out as these days nikkah is prolonged until the walimah unlike with the Sahabah Radiyallahu Anhum, walimah or the wedding feast follows the next day.
4) This story is a reminder and a message to the parents who look for status in life rather than status in deen.
Beloved parents if you really want to see your offsprings settled down in good hands then choose the one who fears Allah the most.
By Allah, we do understand the need for assurance for good life for your children, but yes you will get to marry your daughter or son to a wealthy person yet do you think that good life is promised to them? Let me remind you that Allah Azza Wa Jall promised Hayaatan Thayibah (good life) to those who Fear Him, to the Believers.(See Qur’an 16:97)
I am not the one who promises you that if you give your son or daughter to a Believer of Allah then good life is given, I really do not, but Allah promises that, and we all know that the Promise of Allah is True.
_____
And we pray to Allah Azza Wa Jall that he makes the path to marriage easy for those who find it hard and that He bestows upon us guidance and wisdom on making decisions about nikkah. May Allah Azza Wa Jall shower you all with Hayaatan Thayibah.
Amin.
-Zohayma-
_____
Stories were taken from:
• At-Tabaqaat, Ibn Sa’ad
• Dalaa’il An-Nubuwah, Al Bayhaqi 3/160
• Bihaar Al-Anwaar, Al-Majlisee, p.39
• Fadaa’il As-Sahabah 2/955, no. 342 (Sahih) } 2/858 (Sahih)
• Al Mu’jam Al Kabir, At Tabari 1153
Note: Some were paraphrased as to what I have read, nevertheless all references are stated so for further details kindly direct yourselves to the dalil. Jazakallahu Khayran.
