The Effect of Shyness upon Finding a Good Husband Oh Muslim Sister! – Rasheed Barbee

The Effect of Shyness upon Finding a Good Husband
Oh Muslim Sister!
Translated and compiled by Rasheed Barbee
http://mtws.posterous.com

بِسْمِ اللَّهِ الرَّحْمَنِ الرَّحِيمِ

All praises belong to Allah may the peace and blessings of Allah be upon our Prophet Muhammad and upon his family, companions and those who follow his guidance.

In an effort to find a suitable spouse some of our Muslim sisters often resort to impermissible, demeaning methods such as free-mixing with men via the internet, chat rooms, marriage websites, social networks, sending pictures and the like.

Unfortunately some of our sisters have been deceived into believing this to be the more effective technique for obtaining a spouse, removing from themselves the veil of shyness, modesty and dignity.

Oh my sister in Islam! Trust in Allah and follow the blessed methodology of Islam when choosing a mate.

Shaykh Salih Fawzan explains how Allah rewards the shy and modest woman with a good husband.
The Shaykh said…

Allah the Exalted said concerning the story of Musa, عليهالصلاةوالسلام: وَلَمَّاوَرَدَمَاءَمَدْيَنَوَجَدَعَلَيْهِأُمَّةًمِنْالنَّاسِيَسْقُونَوَوَجَدَمِنْدُونِهِمْامْرَأتَيْنِتَذُودَانِقَالَمَاخَطْبُكمَاقَالَتَالانَسْقِيحَتَّىيُصْدِرَالرِّعَاءُوَأَبُونَاشَيْخٌكَبِيرٌ* فَسَقَىلَهُمَا

And when he arrived at the watering (place) in Madyan, he found there a group of men watering (their flocks), and besides them he found two women who were keeping back (their flocks). He said: “What is the matter with you?” They said: “We cannot water (our flocks) until the shepherds take back (their flocks): and our father is a very old man.”

Until the statement of the Exalted:

فَجَاءَتْهُإِحْدَاهُمَاتَمْشِيعَلَىاسْتِحْيَاءٍقَالَتْإِنَّأَبِييَدْعُوكَلِيَجْزِيَكَأَجْرَمَاسَقَيْتَلَنَا

Afterwards one of the women came (back) to him, walking upon bashfulness. She said: “My father invites you that he may reward you for having watered (our flocks) for us.”
(Chapter 28: 23-25)

So the bashfulness of these two women prevented them from crowding with the men at the watering hole, rather they waited until a shepherd appeared until they were able to water their flock without crowding with the men.

And when their father sent one of them to Musa to request him to meet with their father; she came to Musa عليهالصلاةوالسلام, upon bashfulness.

The result was that Allah the Exalted chose her as a spouse for His Messenger, the one He spoke to directly, Musa عليهالصلاةوالسلام. This was the result of her holding firm to shyness and bashfulness and being far away from mixing with men.

As Allah the Exalted said:

الطَّيِّبَاتُلِلطَّيِّبِينَوَالطَّيِّبُونَلِلطَّيِّبَاتِ
“Women of purity are for men of purity, and men of purity are for women of purity”. (Chapter 24:26)

This story appears in the Noble Quran to be taken by the believing women as a righteous example until the Day of Judgment.

Translated and compiled by Rasheed Barbee
The speech of Shaykh Fawzan was extracted from the following article
http://www.alfawzan.ws/node/2310

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The Ruling on Masturbation – Imaam Muhammad Naasiruddeen Al-Albaanee

Al-Asaalah Magazine (Issue #3)

Al-Ibaanah.com

[56] Question: What is the ruling on masturbation?

Answer: We have no doubts regarding the forbiddance of such a practice. And this is due to two reasons, the first of which is the saying of Allaah, the Most High, concerning the description of the believers: 

“Successful indeed are the believers. Those who offer their prayer with full submissiveness. And those who turn away from false and vain talk. And those who pay the Zakaah. And those who guard their chastity – Except with their wives or (slaves) that their right hands possess, for (in that) they are free from blame. But whoever seeks beyond that, then those are the transgressors.” [Surah Al-Mu’minoon: 1-8] 

Imaam Ash-Shaafi’ee used this ayah as proof for the forbiddance of masturbating. This is since, in this ayah, Allaah has placed two ways for the true believers to fulfill their desires – either by marrying free women or by enjoying the slave women and female war captives. Then He says: ”But whoever seeks beyond that, then those are the transgressors” meaning: Whoever desires a way by which to transmit his desires, apart from these two ways of marriage and taking female war captives, then he is a transgressor and a wrongdoer. 

As for the second reason, then it has been medically established that there are unhealthy consequences for the one who does such an act, and that there are harms to the health caused by this practice, especially for those who constantly engage in it day and night. It is reported on the Prophet (sallAllaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) that he said: ”Do not harm and do not be harmed.” Thus it is not permissible for a Muslim to engage in anything that will cause harm to himself or to others.

There is one more thing that must be mentioned and it is that those who engage themselves in this practice fall under the statement of Allaah: 

“Will you exchange that which is lower for that which is better?” [Surah Al-Baqarah: 61] 

Also there has been reported on the Prophet (sallAllaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) that which further confirms this forbiddance and it is his saying: 

“O you group of young men! Whoever amongst you is able to marry then let him marry, for indeed it is the best means for lowering one’s gaze and the best way to protect one’s private parts. And whosoever is not able, then let him fast, for indeed it will be a shield for him.” 

source : Abdurrahman.org

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Woman Covering her Feet when Going Out – Shaykh Muhammad Al-Imaam & Shaykh Muhammad ‘Akoor

The Shaykh Muhammad Al-Imaam Mentioned within his book: Battle of the Hijaab (Translated and published by MTWS Publications):

It is a must that the clothing of the woman be a covering for all of her body. On the authority of ‘Abdullaah ibn ‘Umar, may Allaah be pleased with him, who said: Allaah’s Messenger said: “Whoever drags his garment out of ostentation then Allaah will not look at him.” Umm Salamah said: “O Messenger of Allaah! How should the women do with their trails (of their garments)?” He said: “Lower it a hand span.” She said: “Then their feet will be exposed.” He said: “Lower it an arms-length and do not do more than that.”[1]

The Hadeeth is clear that it is obligatory upon the woman to cover her feet when she goes out amongst strange men. The scholars have extracted from it that the obligation to cover the face take more precedence. This is because showing the face is a temptation greater than the temptation of showing the feet.[2]

Footnotes:

[1] Reported by An-Nasaa’ee Hadeeth number 5336 It has also come in the Hadeeth of Umm Salamah in An-Nasaa’ee Hadeeth number 5337

[2] Translator’s note: Foot fetishism, foot worship, or podophilia is a pronounced sexual interest in feet or shoes. It is the most common form of sexual preference for otherwise non-sexual objects or body parts. For a foot fetishist, points of attraction include the shape and size of a foot, toes, toenails, jewelry, treatments (i.e. pedicure), state of dress, odor, and sensory interaction. (Segan’s Medical Dictionary)

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Shaykh Muhammad ‘Akoor via Whatsapp

Question: Our, Shaykh; many women exit their homes without covering their feet. This is a Fitnah, specifically in America wherein many men have foot fetishes. Meaning, to look at the foot of a woman creates lust within them. So what is the ruling of a woman uncovering her feet outside of her home in front of strange men?

Answer: In front of strange men, all of the woman is ‘Awrah. It is obligatory upon her to cover the entirety of her body; including the hands and the feet, in order to be safe from Fitnah and sin.

Question: May Allaah bless you, so what is the description of this? Meaning, how does she cover her feet, or with what does she cover her feet?

Answer: (She is to wear) socks on the feet and gloves on the hands. By way of this, the covering of the extremities of her body is completed.

Translated by Raha ibn Donald Battshttp://mtws.posthaven.com

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MY LIFE: THE BEAUTY AND FREEDOM OF BEING A MUSLIMAH

Being a Muslim woman, or a Muslimah as is known in Arabic, is a blessing God has gifted me without even having asked for it. I know that some people might have mixed ideas about who a Muslim woman really is and I would really like to explain myself and hopefully clear some misconceptions along the way too.

Muslimah literally means “a person who submits to the Will of God”. It might seem like a very ordinary definition for some, but for me, being a Muslimah, the definition runs very deep and it is something I preciously hold on to. I know there is a lot of talk in the media about Muslim women being oppressed, limited and subjugated, but if you really want to know exactly who a Muslimah is, you have to get it answered from a Muslim woman herself.

Being a Muslim, I have a purpose in life, and that is to obey my God. No matter what happens in life, obedience to Allah is my first priority. Everything else is secondary. Some people might say that this thought alone is depressing, but trust me, it’s only when we have a true purpose in life and realize the truth, that everything in life falls into place. I know, according to what the media portrays, a lot of you might wonder that being a Muslim woman is a tedious task, but let me tell you, it isn’t. As a Muslimah, I have my own rights and no- Islam does not deprive us of any rights. One extremely amazing lesson from the Quran is that both, the word “man” and “woman” have appeared in the Quran 23 times. We have equal rights, but our duties and responsibilities are different.

A glimpse into the life of a Muslimah

I’m afraid I don’t have much to elaborate on my daily life as a Muslim woman. Every day is a struggle to come closer to God, and with each passing day, I realize how blessed I am to be a woman of Islam. I pray 5 times a day, recite the Quran and learn more about what I can related to Islam. In short, every day is an opportunity to gain the Pleasure of my God.

I know that some of you might shake your head at this point and say what a dull life I’ve got. Yes, there might not be anything too flashy about it, but I’m grateful for it. I find my peace in my 5-times daily prayers, immeasurable solace in reading the Quran, security in observing my Hijab and Niqab, happiness in my family, freedom is obeying Allah and trust in Allah. Above all, I have been blessed with the gift of being a woman of Islam and I really couldn’t have asked for anything better! As a Muslim, part of my belief is the life in the Hereafter, after death. This life is transient, and it is only a test while the life in the Hereafter is what I strive every day for.

“The abode of the Hereafter-that is truly Life if they only knew” (Al Quran 29:64)

I suppose this article is pointless if I don’t talk about the Hijab or Niqab. Modesty is the best adornment of a woman. The Hijab is an obligation on every Muslim woman, and it is an expression of our love and obedience to Allah. We wear the Hijab because Islam teaches us that women are precious and our beauty is something we only reveal to the people that matter in our life. With the popularity of nudity and semi-nudity of women running rampant today, observing the Hijab is an honour because it preserves my modesty, upholds my dignity and gives me far more freedom than you could ever imagine.

Freedom is something that most people believe Muslim women are deprived of, but for me, true freedom is only attained by obeying Allah. Obedience to God has never oppressed or limited me. It has only set me free.

To sum it all up, Muslim women are given beautiful rights in Islam and our position is spoken highly of in Islam. As a mother, paradise lies beneath her feet. As a daughter, she opens up the doors of paradise for her parents. As a wife, she completes the religion of her husband.

This is who a Muslimah is. This is who I am.



Link to the original article published on ReligioMag: http://religiomag.com/be-my-guest-the-freedom-of-a-muslimah/

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